I thank God for the support that my children and their families
are giving me in these trying times.
It is a comforting feeling knowing that I can
call each of you and know you are there for me.
Yesterday was a bit trying
for me.
I just felt lonely with no direction.
Today is better and I am looking forward to my Christmas
in the snow with Becky and family.
Lisa and Mark, I will send you a snowball.
Jenny and Rob, I look forward to the time that you and Rob will
be able to spend some time here.
Annie and Chris, thank you for your hospitality.
This is a year of firsts for all of us as we go down this road
together.
I know it's not all about me.
I lost my wife but you lost a wonderful mother.
Thank you again for being here when Momma and I needed
you most. You were all so wonderful and I was proud of you.
All the people involved from Hospice told me how impressed they
were with our family. No one was pretentious, we were all
just being who we are.
I am continuing with the meetings put on by the hospital.
They are very helpful and have helped me be with others who are
faced with a similar situation.
I wish each of you a very merry Christmas and a peaceful year.
We'll do it together. I love you all so very much.
Love POPS
Wednesday, December 25, 2013
BLESSINGS - A LETTER FROM DAD
BLESSINGS
I
can count my blessings, having 53 years with my life partner, Betty.
Our Children, Grandchildren, and Great Grandchildren. I will enjoy
and find contentment in being thankful for what I have.
I choose to
help others through these difficult times and give hope to someone
in the same situation. Hope for everything, expect nothing and
accept what I have.
I will hope for everything, accept
disappointments, be on the lookout for goodness and beauty and take
solace in love that tempers my losses.
There is no right way to
grieve, no timetable or schedule for grieving.
Despite the
certainty that death will enter into our lives, most of us are
unprepared for it.
You don't get over grief. You learn to live
with it.
I can remain right where I am for the rest of my life or go
forward. It is my choice. I chose to go forward.
The grieving
process has no shortcuts as the pain gets easier. This is one of
the most tense, frightening and difficult, emotional experiences of
my life.
My whole life is turned upside down.
My friends often
withdraw because they need to protect their own emotions not wanting
to bring up the subject leaving me feeling isolated and unsupported.
I have asked them to just call and ask how I'm doing.
Many people
will walk in and out of our lives but only true friends will leave
footprints in your heart.
The "Not normal is normal".
Monday, December 23, 2013
TEARS OF REALIZATION
I have been struggling hard with the thought that Mommy is gone forever. How do you deal with that? How do you face the fact that the woman that has been in your life for 52 years as your Mother is now gone up to heaven?
Tears have streamed down my face more than once. Sometimes it's like a faucet that was left open during a freeze and when thawed, the water just pours out when least expected.
Today, as I stood in the bathroom, looking at myself in the mirror, I was thinking about Mom. I had just called Dad a few moments before wishing him a Happy Birthday. He is 79 years young today.
The tears streamed down as I pictured the tables turned. What if it were Dad that had passed instead of Mom and she was still in good health?
I could picture her in the kitchen as she stirred a bowl of dough to make cookies. She is standing there staring towards the TV as tears run down her face. She sees water dripping uncontrollably from the ceiling from a leak that Dad never fixed.
Mom looks over to the dining room as she thinks about changing the looks of the room, but then realizes that she can't do it on her own. The backyard needs a new deck. The current one is so old that the boards are pulling up from their nails and splitting. She realizes that she can't do any of this on her own.
"Daddy, how about if we re-do the downstairs?" She would say and Dad would get up, get his tools and begin the project.
If the tables were turned, Mom would be miserable knowing that the house would eventually fall apart under the horribly needed repairs from its age. Today, Daddy even mentioned it to me that he needed a completely new roof and it would cost about $10,000 to replace.
Do I let Daddy go and do what he wants? Do I realize that Mommy was in horrible pain and now she is home with Jesus and happy? I know that when she was still with us and she was still coherent, she signed to all of us, "It is finished."
Mommy, I will never forget you. I will always love you and no matter what Daddy does, no woman could ever take your place. You are my one and only Mommy. I pray that Daddy never decides to move another woman in to your home...in to your bedroom...in to your bed.
Tears have streamed down my face more than once. Sometimes it's like a faucet that was left open during a freeze and when thawed, the water just pours out when least expected.
Today, as I stood in the bathroom, looking at myself in the mirror, I was thinking about Mom. I had just called Dad a few moments before wishing him a Happy Birthday. He is 79 years young today.
The tears streamed down as I pictured the tables turned. What if it were Dad that had passed instead of Mom and she was still in good health?
I could picture her in the kitchen as she stirred a bowl of dough to make cookies. She is standing there staring towards the TV as tears run down her face. She sees water dripping uncontrollably from the ceiling from a leak that Dad never fixed.
Mom looks over to the dining room as she thinks about changing the looks of the room, but then realizes that she can't do it on her own. The backyard needs a new deck. The current one is so old that the boards are pulling up from their nails and splitting. She realizes that she can't do any of this on her own.
"Daddy, how about if we re-do the downstairs?" She would say and Dad would get up, get his tools and begin the project.
If the tables were turned, Mom would be miserable knowing that the house would eventually fall apart under the horribly needed repairs from its age. Today, Daddy even mentioned it to me that he needed a completely new roof and it would cost about $10,000 to replace.
Do I let Daddy go and do what he wants? Do I realize that Mommy was in horrible pain and now she is home with Jesus and happy? I know that when she was still with us and she was still coherent, she signed to all of us, "It is finished."
Mommy, I will never forget you. I will always love you and no matter what Daddy does, no woman could ever take your place. You are my one and only Mommy. I pray that Daddy never decides to move another woman in to your home...in to your bedroom...in to your bed.
WHAT WOULD MOMMY DO?
I have had several really hard days. Memories of Mom creep up unannounced and I am filled with tears as I realize that I can't just call her up and talk to her for hours on the phone any more. I can't say, "guess what, Mom?"
Today is Daddy's birthday. I called him this morning to wish him well today. He thanked me and his conversation turned to what his day would be like today. He was going out with a lady named Hazel from the support group.
What struck me odd was that he couldn't even remember who she was. He had to ask Becky about her. He told me that she was the nicely dressed lady in the group. They are going to the movies to watch the show about Walt Disney with Tom Hanks.
I felt a rush of jealousy as he was telling me about how excited he was to go out today.
"I guess I'm still a pretty good catch!" he told me. I laughed at the thought. Really? Now, it's only been three months and Dad is already strutting his stuff like a peacock with its tail spread tall behind him, swooning the ladies that take any kind of interest in him.
I'm sorry, Dad, but I really don't think that Mom would have gone out on the town so quickly and been out on any dates so soon. I think she would have dove in to the Word of God as she has always loved to do. I think she would spend more time with people from the church, invited her family over to spend time with her and would have really taken care of all of her girls sincerely. I'm not saying that you are not, but I just hope that when things settle down that you don't forget your daughters.
Today is Daddy's birthday. I called him this morning to wish him well today. He thanked me and his conversation turned to what his day would be like today. He was going out with a lady named Hazel from the support group.
What struck me odd was that he couldn't even remember who she was. He had to ask Becky about her. He told me that she was the nicely dressed lady in the group. They are going to the movies to watch the show about Walt Disney with Tom Hanks.
I felt a rush of jealousy as he was telling me about how excited he was to go out today.
"I guess I'm still a pretty good catch!" he told me. I laughed at the thought. Really? Now, it's only been three months and Dad is already strutting his stuff like a peacock with its tail spread tall behind him, swooning the ladies that take any kind of interest in him.
I'm sorry, Dad, but I really don't think that Mom would have gone out on the town so quickly and been out on any dates so soon. I think she would have dove in to the Word of God as she has always loved to do. I think she would spend more time with people from the church, invited her family over to spend time with her and would have really taken care of all of her girls sincerely. I'm not saying that you are not, but I just hope that when things settle down that you don't forget your daughters.
A DATE? SERIOUSLY? ALREADY?
I couldn't believe what I was hearing when Dad said that he was going on a date. Mom had been gone from us only about a month and already Dad was out on the town meeting women. I was heartbroken.
I know that Mom would know that this would be Dad's way, but at the same time, I think she would agree with me. A month is just too soon.
I think what hurt the most was hearing how Dad was amazing the women with his dance moves and his ability to cook. Wait a minute!!! What about Mom? Don't you remember her? The dances you had with her? She did most of the cooking, though. Although Mom loved to cook and bake.
Dad has been attending some grief counseling sessions every week. He has met some nice people that are suffering much as he is in the loss of a loved on. He has also been going to the Senior Center every Friday night where he goes dancing.
I just hope that Daddy isn't trying to replace Mom or trying to find a "love mate." That idea in itself just disgusts me. I hope that my feelings are wrong and off track.
I know that Mom would know that this would be Dad's way, but at the same time, I think she would agree with me. A month is just too soon.
I think what hurt the most was hearing how Dad was amazing the women with his dance moves and his ability to cook. Wait a minute!!! What about Mom? Don't you remember her? The dances you had with her? She did most of the cooking, though. Although Mom loved to cook and bake.
Dad has been attending some grief counseling sessions every week. He has met some nice people that are suffering much as he is in the loss of a loved on. He has also been going to the Senior Center every Friday night where he goes dancing.
I just hope that Daddy isn't trying to replace Mom or trying to find a "love mate." That idea in itself just disgusts me. I hope that my feelings are wrong and off track.
MOMMY, I MISS YOU SO MUCH
How do you deal with the loss of your Mommy after 52 years of her being there for you every minute at a whim?
We'd talk to each other on the phone for hours and laugh about the fact that we really didn't talk about any one particular subject. Then we'd try to end our phone calls with..."and one more thing." Our calls were full of laughter, sometimes tears and just a lot of fun information.
I miss those calls. Daddy told me that we wouldn't get any of those lengthy calls from him because he just doesn't do that at all. Gee whiz, Dad....thanks for the warning, I guess. But, glad you did tell me anyway, so that I wouldn't be totally disappointed, but instead happy that we get a few moments on the phone at all.
Here it is, our first Christmas without Mom. The lavish meals and decorations are now a memory, captured only in our minds and in photos past. We have made it through our first Thanksgiving. I often have thoughts of, "Why Mom? Why did she have to go?"
The night that Mom passed away, it was traumatic, for sure. But looking back, I think that a lot of actions were done out of haste due to the shock of Mom's passing. I think that the realization of the idea that "Death is Forever" hadn't really hit anyone yet.
Mom passed, everyone scattered throughout the house. Each taking on different types of jobs and responsibilities. What seemed to have been neatly laid out and mentally rehearsed earlier, didn't play out anywhere close to what was anticipated. Unfortunately, as a result, it began a quickly unraveling of feelings and toe-stepping that sent all of us on a back paddling to try to mend what we were all going through....together.
Once she passed, it was a total scurry of getting Mom properly dressed for the coroner to come pick her up. All of us girls put on the skirt, blouse and shoes that Daddy had picked out for her to wear. We put her wig on and made her look as beautiful as we could.
Daddy put the doggies up on her bed so that they could see that she had passed on. The two of them laid on her lap, wagging their tails wildly. One of them even snuggled his nose under her hand in hopes to encourage Mom to pet him a little. After no response after several minutes, they both laid down and slowly scooted away. It was as if they realized that she was no longer with them and they quickly accepted it.
The coroner came and as he was taking Mom out of the house, Dad quickly spoke up and said, "Wait, Mom said that the only way she will go out of this house is feet first." Everyone laughed. Annie said, "good call, Dad." The coroner was eager to comply as he carefully turned the gurney around.
Once Mom was out of the house, things began to change quickly. The vacuum cleaner could be heard going in the bedroom as the room was being put back in to shape as it was before the hospital bed was brought in.
Dad was going through the closet of all of Mom's clothes and handing out things to everyone in the room. It was a frenzy. The only thing that I really wanted of Mom's clothing was a blue sweater with red and silver diamonds on it. Mom loved to wear that sweater all the time and we have several pictures of her wearing it. Once I located it, Rob took a hold of it to be sure that we could at least have that fond memory of Mom with us.
Then the frenzy was turned to the dresser. It seemed that clothes were being tossed everywhere. They were on the couch in their bedroom, on the bed and even on the floor. The hustle and bustle was going on like it was a free-for-all of Mom's belongings. Her jewelry that she made was quickly being gone through. Dad was telling a short story of each of the items.
I look back on that day now and wonder what Mom would have thought had she been able to see just what was going on. I think she would have thought that her life was being torn apart like mad dogs tearing at a fresh carcuss. Knowing Mom, she was quite emotional and sometimes seemed like she'd over-react to different things, but in her defense, I think she would have yelled at every one of us and told all of us to leave her alone. She would have told every one "Shame on you for treating my memory like this." I think she would have been all over Dad about it for sure.
Then it seemed that Dad had snapped a little. I heard him at one time say, "this is all mine now." Even a family meeting had me in shock for sure. I could tell that it was kind of a slap in the face to all of us girls. Dad said, "this is my stuff now. If I want any of you to have any of it, I will let you know. If I want to sell it, I will." I was nearly in tears when he was saying that. It seems that Mom and her memory was going to be quickly diminished by Dad and the rest of us would just have to deal with it. I can feel the pain beginning now. Mommy, I miss you so much already.
We'd talk to each other on the phone for hours and laugh about the fact that we really didn't talk about any one particular subject. Then we'd try to end our phone calls with..."and one more thing." Our calls were full of laughter, sometimes tears and just a lot of fun information.
I miss those calls. Daddy told me that we wouldn't get any of those lengthy calls from him because he just doesn't do that at all. Gee whiz, Dad....thanks for the warning, I guess. But, glad you did tell me anyway, so that I wouldn't be totally disappointed, but instead happy that we get a few moments on the phone at all.
Here it is, our first Christmas without Mom. The lavish meals and decorations are now a memory, captured only in our minds and in photos past. We have made it through our first Thanksgiving. I often have thoughts of, "Why Mom? Why did she have to go?"
The night that Mom passed away, it was traumatic, for sure. But looking back, I think that a lot of actions were done out of haste due to the shock of Mom's passing. I think that the realization of the idea that "Death is Forever" hadn't really hit anyone yet.
Mom passed, everyone scattered throughout the house. Each taking on different types of jobs and responsibilities. What seemed to have been neatly laid out and mentally rehearsed earlier, didn't play out anywhere close to what was anticipated. Unfortunately, as a result, it began a quickly unraveling of feelings and toe-stepping that sent all of us on a back paddling to try to mend what we were all going through....together.
Once she passed, it was a total scurry of getting Mom properly dressed for the coroner to come pick her up. All of us girls put on the skirt, blouse and shoes that Daddy had picked out for her to wear. We put her wig on and made her look as beautiful as we could.
Daddy put the doggies up on her bed so that they could see that she had passed on. The two of them laid on her lap, wagging their tails wildly. One of them even snuggled his nose under her hand in hopes to encourage Mom to pet him a little. After no response after several minutes, they both laid down and slowly scooted away. It was as if they realized that she was no longer with them and they quickly accepted it.
The coroner came and as he was taking Mom out of the house, Dad quickly spoke up and said, "Wait, Mom said that the only way she will go out of this house is feet first." Everyone laughed. Annie said, "good call, Dad." The coroner was eager to comply as he carefully turned the gurney around.
Once Mom was out of the house, things began to change quickly. The vacuum cleaner could be heard going in the bedroom as the room was being put back in to shape as it was before the hospital bed was brought in.
Dad was going through the closet of all of Mom's clothes and handing out things to everyone in the room. It was a frenzy. The only thing that I really wanted of Mom's clothing was a blue sweater with red and silver diamonds on it. Mom loved to wear that sweater all the time and we have several pictures of her wearing it. Once I located it, Rob took a hold of it to be sure that we could at least have that fond memory of Mom with us.
Then the frenzy was turned to the dresser. It seemed that clothes were being tossed everywhere. They were on the couch in their bedroom, on the bed and even on the floor. The hustle and bustle was going on like it was a free-for-all of Mom's belongings. Her jewelry that she made was quickly being gone through. Dad was telling a short story of each of the items.
I look back on that day now and wonder what Mom would have thought had she been able to see just what was going on. I think she would have thought that her life was being torn apart like mad dogs tearing at a fresh carcuss. Knowing Mom, she was quite emotional and sometimes seemed like she'd over-react to different things, but in her defense, I think she would have yelled at every one of us and told all of us to leave her alone. She would have told every one "Shame on you for treating my memory like this." I think she would have been all over Dad about it for sure.
Then it seemed that Dad had snapped a little. I heard him at one time say, "this is all mine now." Even a family meeting had me in shock for sure. I could tell that it was kind of a slap in the face to all of us girls. Dad said, "this is my stuff now. If I want any of you to have any of it, I will let you know. If I want to sell it, I will." I was nearly in tears when he was saying that. It seems that Mom and her memory was going to be quickly diminished by Dad and the rest of us would just have to deal with it. I can feel the pain beginning now. Mommy, I miss you so much already.
Sunday, September 22, 2013
CHERISHED MOMENTS WITH MOM
These were things that Mom said the final two weeks she was with us. Some of what she had said left us in stitches. Becky even said that she was laughing so hard that she had tears running down her legs. Other times, Mom would have us in tears knowing that we didn't have much time left with her. Every thought, moment and event we spent with her will be remembered by all of us the rest of our days. We love you Mom.
Said Papa Three times
At least won't mess up my hair (referring to no hair)
"I wasn't waving at you" (Shawn and Molly) she was waving to Kristina behind them
Told Papa to go fix the ceiling because the heat was going to ruin it
Picture of her, Jenny, Becky, Annie, Lisa and Rachel "I will cherish that picture forever"
Let's play a game of "Nipple Creek"
Why are we back in Redding? (she thought that we were in Montana)
Talking to Clem "Are you going to the restaurant with us?" (In and Out Burger)
How do you sign "make"?
"I haven't argued with you in a long time" referring to Rob
After giving mom medicine she said to Lisa and Annie "you and you are the pits! And, sometimes you" (referring to Becky)
Chris read his story about what he thinks about mom. When he was done she said "keep going"
Woke up and said "they sure make a lot of T-shirts for transportation" (Jenni was wearing one of her "Pride Transportation" T-shirts)
That's awful! (referring to morphine)
Lisa was folding laundry and mom woke up to say, "that's good Lisa"
Rachel said, "it's your medicine" and mom said "at least there's nothing by butt!
Referring to the enema to be performed mom said "A dog fell through the ceiling and was ready to perform the "transaction!". This transaction is Holy Spirit inspired."
Annie was wiping her mouth due to ensure in the corners. Then preceded to wipe her forehead. Mom said, "I got it way up there? I must have been a real porker!"
Mom said that she just read a headline stating, "pretty woman drowns herself."
"I'm dying so fast....I could have been in a car accident..." (mom tilts her head and acts like she's dead)
"I like it when someone rubs my boobs" Dad then said "I wonder who that 'somebody' is?" We all laughed
I have sand in my belly button but we'll leave that alone!
Papa go dig up some dirt...referring to gossip
Sue the people in the video
Kissed all the girls hands and said how much she loves each of us (One of those tearful, unforgettable moments)
East coast sports fan
"Blame Becky if this all goes wrong"
Mom did the sign to sing and then we all sang "It's a wonderful World" (We'll never be able to listen to that song again)
I'll pretend that I'm breathing (then moves shoulders up and down)
Told Becky not to stand on her wire (oxygen tube) and then pretended to die...oh well too bad!
"Becky go to sleep...close your eyes....go to sleep"
She asked Becky and Annie where we got our nursing degrees. Annie replied "Jack in the Box" mom laughed
Mom has a bowl movement. Thinks that she is in the restaurant in the boys bathroom. Lisa is asked if she is an employee and to lock the door. She said that she cannot believe that she went to the restaurant in a nightgown. Becky said that it is so pretty that no one can tell. Mom says, "Rebecca....I am a sensible woman."
We served....black bean soup, mayonnaise and corn starch pudding!!! (referring to Mom's being in the restaurant during her movement. We all cleaned her up and were laughing the entire time)
Lisa was the employee of the month
When Becky and Annie lifted mom up to the edge of the bed...mom said "I'm falling off the Grand Canyon"
Mom looks over at dad and says, "this is not a good time for sex." Dad says, "why did I pay all this money?"....mom said, "I'll give you your money back!"
Mom asked about her cancer and what's going on. When she was told what happened, she sarcastically said "I still have the same husband...I still have the same children...I must be living a nightmare."
After praying for mom...she said, " I don't walk in the chicken spirit, I walk in the Holy Spirit."
Tiffany came in the room and mom acknowledged her by saying, "Oh, hi Tiffany...the connection is bad...can you hear me?" Tiffany said, "yes, I'm here." Mom said "Oh good, because the cell phone connection is bad."
On 9-9-13, mom woke up and asked if she could get out of bed. Lisa said that she was too weak and Rachel told her she has a broken hip. she asked if she has cancer and was told yes. She said she was hoping it was just a dream and then started to cry.
Mom said to Clem, "I love you, you tall Redwood Tree."
Talking to Jim about her being burned and being scared that a man was looking at her in the hospital...mom was trying to invite Jim to be part of the enema party. However, she tried to tell him the story and instead said, "When I was 5 years old, I was 5 years old....(she repeated that about 8 times)....when I was burned, I was burnt....there was a boy birdie in the room and I'm a girl birdie."
Rob came in and mom said, "hello you Indian cowpoke!"
She scratched her boob while talking to Chris and said, "I'm sorry but my boob itches!"
She called her catheter an "In and Out Burger"... dad called it a "pee shooter" and she laughed.
Mom was waiting so long for the nurse to come to perform the enema that she said, "my arm pit hair is starting to grow!"
Mom had just had a bowel movement. She became panicked and said, "I'm not in America." In order to comfort her, we tried to find something to show her that she is in the house. Becky showed her the ceiling fan and she said, "please don't confuse me." Lisa said to find an object...but not a German beer stein. So dad grabbed Pedro...everyone started laughing when Becky said, "Oh great, show mom a Mexican immigrant!" Dad laughed so hard that he had to leave the room.
Becky told mom that no one has a passport to take her out of the country. Mom said, "I know you wouldn't deceive me...." then fell asleep.
Said Papa Three times
At least won't mess up my hair (referring to no hair)
"I wasn't waving at you" (Shawn and Molly) she was waving to Kristina behind them
Told Papa to go fix the ceiling because the heat was going to ruin it
Picture of her, Jenny, Becky, Annie, Lisa and Rachel "I will cherish that picture forever"
Let's play a game of "Nipple Creek"
Why are we back in Redding? (she thought that we were in Montana)
Talking to Clem "Are you going to the restaurant with us?" (In and Out Burger)
How do you sign "make"?
"I haven't argued with you in a long time" referring to Rob
After giving mom medicine she said to Lisa and Annie "you and you are the pits! And, sometimes you" (referring to Becky)
Chris read his story about what he thinks about mom. When he was done she said "keep going"
Woke up and said "they sure make a lot of T-shirts for transportation" (Jenni was wearing one of her "Pride Transportation" T-shirts)
That's awful! (referring to morphine)
Lisa was folding laundry and mom woke up to say, "that's good Lisa"
Rachel said, "it's your medicine" and mom said "at least there's nothing by butt!
Referring to the enema to be performed mom said "A dog fell through the ceiling and was ready to perform the "transaction!". This transaction is Holy Spirit inspired."
Annie was wiping her mouth due to ensure in the corners. Then preceded to wipe her forehead. Mom said, "I got it way up there? I must have been a real porker!"
Mom said that she just read a headline stating, "pretty woman drowns herself."
"I'm dying so fast....I could have been in a car accident..." (mom tilts her head and acts like she's dead)
"I like it when someone rubs my boobs" Dad then said "I wonder who that 'somebody' is?" We all laughed
I have sand in my belly button but we'll leave that alone!
Papa go dig up some dirt...referring to gossip
Sue the people in the video
Kissed all the girls hands and said how much she loves each of us (One of those tearful, unforgettable moments)
East coast sports fan
"Blame Becky if this all goes wrong"
Mom did the sign to sing and then we all sang "It's a wonderful World" (We'll never be able to listen to that song again)
I'll pretend that I'm breathing (then moves shoulders up and down)
Told Becky not to stand on her wire (oxygen tube) and then pretended to die...oh well too bad!
"Becky go to sleep...close your eyes....go to sleep"
She asked Becky and Annie where we got our nursing degrees. Annie replied "Jack in the Box" mom laughed
Mom has a bowl movement. Thinks that she is in the restaurant in the boys bathroom. Lisa is asked if she is an employee and to lock the door. She said that she cannot believe that she went to the restaurant in a nightgown. Becky said that it is so pretty that no one can tell. Mom says, "Rebecca....I am a sensible woman."
We served....black bean soup, mayonnaise and corn starch pudding!!! (referring to Mom's being in the restaurant during her movement. We all cleaned her up and were laughing the entire time)
Lisa was the employee of the month
When Becky and Annie lifted mom up to the edge of the bed...mom said "I'm falling off the Grand Canyon"
Mom looks over at dad and says, "this is not a good time for sex." Dad says, "why did I pay all this money?"....mom said, "I'll give you your money back!"
Mom asked about her cancer and what's going on. When she was told what happened, she sarcastically said "I still have the same husband...I still have the same children...I must be living a nightmare."
After praying for mom...she said, " I don't walk in the chicken spirit, I walk in the Holy Spirit."
Tiffany came in the room and mom acknowledged her by saying, "Oh, hi Tiffany...the connection is bad...can you hear me?" Tiffany said, "yes, I'm here." Mom said "Oh good, because the cell phone connection is bad."
On 9-9-13, mom woke up and asked if she could get out of bed. Lisa said that she was too weak and Rachel told her she has a broken hip. she asked if she has cancer and was told yes. She said she was hoping it was just a dream and then started to cry.
Mom said to Clem, "I love you, you tall Redwood Tree."
Talking to Jim about her being burned and being scared that a man was looking at her in the hospital...mom was trying to invite Jim to be part of the enema party. However, she tried to tell him the story and instead said, "When I was 5 years old, I was 5 years old....(she repeated that about 8 times)....when I was burned, I was burnt....there was a boy birdie in the room and I'm a girl birdie."
Rob came in and mom said, "hello you Indian cowpoke!"
She scratched her boob while talking to Chris and said, "I'm sorry but my boob itches!"
She called her catheter an "In and Out Burger"... dad called it a "pee shooter" and she laughed.
Mom was waiting so long for the nurse to come to perform the enema that she said, "my arm pit hair is starting to grow!"
Mom had just had a bowel movement. She became panicked and said, "I'm not in America." In order to comfort her, we tried to find something to show her that she is in the house. Becky showed her the ceiling fan and she said, "please don't confuse me." Lisa said to find an object...but not a German beer stein. So dad grabbed Pedro...everyone started laughing when Becky said, "Oh great, show mom a Mexican immigrant!" Dad laughed so hard that he had to leave the room.
Becky told mom that no one has a passport to take her out of the country. Mom said, "I know you wouldn't deceive me...." then fell asleep.
PENNED THOUGHTS FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Jennifer:
Mom has taught me so much in life. I look back to my younger years and see that she was grooming me for adulthood with tender loving care.
Many times I find myself doing things because that is the way she taught me, or that is how she would handle something.
She guided me in so many ways while growing up to appreciate life and to be patient and understanding.
Mom has always been a great support in my life! I am going to miss our long phone calls while I travel across country.
Mom will continue to live in my heart as she dances in heaven with the Lord. Mommy, I love you very much. Thank you for all the gifts that you have given me through your love, and from your heart! You will always be with me.
Rebecca:
I remember the teachings Mom taught us from the Bible. She impressed upon us that God did not approve of those who ignored his righteous standards. But that he rewarded faithfulness in a very large way! She was undeniably... always right!
Never a hypocrite, the law of loving kindness was upon her tongue, her mouth consistently opened in wisdom.
Mom filled many roles each day in caring for the family. As the needs arose, she did so as a nurse, a cook, a teacher and a trusted friend.
She provided us with the emotional security of a warm, loving environment. Always a place to lay your head down and plenty of good "homemade" food she'd prepare in your honor.
As a wife she proved to be an exemplary role model in submissive, loyal love. She loved Dad unconditionally, honoring him as a gifted compliment in all things!
I am so very thankful to have been taught by her and to have known her and to able to say, "That was my Mom!"
Annie:
Proverbs 31:31. "Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates."
Mom has always been a God fearing woman. She led this whole family down the straight road and prayed that we would follow.
Never forceful, never condemning. She was a reflection of God's love for us all.
Mom was beautiful both inside and out. She planted seeds of love in each one of her children, and reaped a bountiful harvest from it.
Her love, kindness, mercy and grace will forever be cherished.
Until we meet again Mommy!
Lisa:
Mom, a lady of true grace and honor. Mom taught us to be true to ourselves.
At times, Mom had a funny way of sharing her sense of humor that would have you in stitches. Not to be fooled however, she was always a lady!
Mom taught us by her works how to be a believer and follower in the word.
Mom always knew what to say to help someone in times of sadness and/or trouble.
When we were in trouble with Mom, her discipline always included verses or lessons pulled from the Bible.
Mom was a true companion to Dad. She displayed and taught the responsibilities of a God fearing wife.
Growing up, Mom made birthdays and other occasions exciting and always memorable. She and Dad would cook, decorate and plan each event.
Mom enjoyed making sure whomever visited was comfortable and always well fed. She is an example of a giver and a gracious hostess.
I always enjoyed how people, wherever she went showed her the respect she deserved, while she in turn gave back respect and compliments to deserving ones.
Mom was always true to her faith.
Rachelle:
I remember talking to Grandma about my baby that past away. She was the only one who knew what was going through, since she had a stillborn baby and then also lost her son when he was only 33.
She cried with me, uplifted me, comforted me and reminded me that we would be together again.
No matter how many times I cried, she never made me feel like I was a burden or was tired of listening to me.
I will never forget the day I came to visit Grandma after I came from Foster Care. When Grandma saw me, she ran up to me, hugged and kissed me and told me how much she had missed me! It was the same kind of loving feeling I had felt growing up, that I was a part of the family and genuinely loved.
I especially hold dear the day she told me that she thought of me as her 5th daughter!
Rob:
My fond memories of Betty are her sincerity and love from the heart.
Stories she would tell me that always had a message.
Thanksgiving at our house.
The love she had for her Family.
Playing Skip-Bo, "Fun Times".
Her concern for others.
But, I will cherish most the impact she has made on me, and how it has changed my life.
Chris:
When I think of Betty, I hear the words of Jesus, "Well Done Thy Good and Faithful Servant". A woman full of wisdom and loving kindness is the grace of her lips. She was wise and intelligent and highly cultured in mind and manners. She was graceful and even-tempered in all her ways.
She was truly an excellent example of a meek and quite spirit. She lived her life persistent of God's word, always ready to share God's word with love and conviction and quick to praise her Lord and Savior no matter what situation had occurred.
She could have been bitter due to loss of her son, or the loss of her hearing, but instead she chose to serve and trust in he Lord and lean not on her own understanding. In all her ways Betty acknowledged the Lord and he directed her paths right up to the end.
When I think of Betty, I hear the words of Jesus, "Well Done Thou Good and Faithfull Servant, Welcome Home"!
I am thankful to have known her. It is now because of their daughter, my life is complete in the Lord. Annie is the pillar that holds me up and the godly life that Betty was so persistent in living. Her character traits have become those of my wife's.
Betty is a hero to many, but to me she was truly a Proverbs 31 model of a godly woman.
Kristina:
Betty always told me that I had a soft heart. We would laugh together and cry together, then laugh again! She always gave me compliments, and she dearly loved my son which truly blessed my heart.
A FEW MEMORABLE POSTS I WANT TO KEEP
September 14
Rman Martinez to Jenni Reynolds-Kebler
So sorry to hear about your mom..our hearts and prayers go to you and your family. At least there's no more suffering and she will have peace.
Mary Anne Brannon Lehouiller to Jenni Reynolds-Kebler
Every memory I have about your mom is of her beauty, gentle nature, contagious laugh and playfulness. Thank you for sharing this time in such a touching and generous way.
Now she is with Grandma, Grandpa, Charles and dad.
My love to you all.
Now she is with Grandma, Grandpa, Charles and dad.
My love to you all.
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September 15
On our way to church this morning. Going to be odd not having Mom sitting next to us in person. But she will be with us in spirit.
I am wearing one of her blouses and some of her jewelry that she made. Daddy was very pleased to see me wearing her favorite items.
Love you Mommy.
Rachelle Custer - I've been wearing gmas necklace, it makes me feel closer to her. Still can't believe my grandma is gone. I love her and miss her so much.
September 17 at 5:05pm
Jenni Reynolds-Kebler - I know. On my way back to Utah, I had moments where it was hard to drive. I really miss my Mom. But she is no longer in pain.
September 17 at 7:39pm
Cathy Hannigan - Will you be having a celebration of life for her? Love and hugs to you and Rob.
September 17 at 8:06pm
Jenni Reynolds-Kebler - Yes. I will do an update now.
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Rachelle Custer - I've been wearing gmas necklace, it makes me feel closer to her. Still can't believe my grandma is gone. I love her and miss her so much.
September 17 at 5:05pm
Jenni Reynolds-Kebler - I know. On my way back to Utah, I had moments where it was hard to drive. I really miss my Mom. But she is no longer in pain.
September 17 at 7:39pm
Cathy Hannigan - Will you be having a celebration of life for her? Love and hugs to you and Rob.
September 17 at 8:06pm
Jenni Reynolds-Kebler - Yes. I will do an update now.
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I would like to extend a special and meaningful thank you to everyone for their support, prayers and thoughts. Mommy is completely well now dancing in aheaven with our Lord God. She left a broken body behind to be renewed in Heaven.
Brian Green - I was thinking about you and praying for you on my morning walk. And now to see this. I'm truly and genuinely sorry, Jenni, tho I know she is at peace. I hope the memories hold you, and I hope time and life's grace do what they do, too, and bring you and your family peace.
September 15 at 10:07am
Donna Krenzke - so sorry my prayers are with your family
September 15 at 10:15am
Patti Holden - Prayers and hugs
September 15 at 10:35am
Valerie Ann Martinez - Very nicely said. Xoxo
September 15 at 10:50am
Julie Proctor - I am so sorry for your loss.
September 15 at 10:54am
Eileen Richardson - Hugs and love.
September 15 at 10:55am
Carlene Grech Cathcart - I am so, so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom very suddenly in May. We had no warning nor suffering, very unlike your circumstances. I am praying for your comfort and strength, as this is not an easy time no matter how you got here. Eddie said that losing someone you love is either like a hurricane (you know it's coming, but it is just as devastating) or an earthquake (you have no idea it's coming - and the devastation happens). I am sorry for your hurricane! I am sorry for my earthquake. I am praying that you find strength in your memories and the knowing that you have been there during this difficult and horrible time with your father. Draw comfort and strength from eachother. Draw it from wherever you can find it. May God find it in His heart of hearts to give it to you freely! Sending my love to you Cutie!
September 15 at 11:25am
Christopher Britten - Love you! Praying for you and your family.
September 15 at 12:18pm
Ann Cameron - So sorry for your loss
September 15 at 1:59pm
Lacey Lewis - my prayers go out to you all
September 15 at 2:22pm
Christine Sperduto Franko - Another loving soul in heaven looking out for you and yours. God bless.
September 15 at 2:55pm
Melissa Halverson - God bless her and your family... I am sorry for your loss
September 15 at 6:05pm
Maryse Lehouiller - I don't know you very well, yet, but our prayers are in our hearts for you and your family
September 15 at 7:19pm
Tracy Foster-Olstad - Treasure your loving thoughts and memories with your beautiful mom. Mother Daughter bonds are so much stronger than life and death. Thinking of you Jenni!
September 15 at 9:08pm
Vicki Overton - Sorry to hear prayer for you and family
September 17 at 6:55pm
Bobbi Jo Browne - I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I am keeping you guys in my prayers.
September 18 at 5:49am
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September 17
We will be holding a "Celebration of Life" for my Mom at the Word of Life Church in Redding, California on Airport Road. It will be held September 28th at 2pm. My Dad asks that in lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Word Of Life for their Senior Ministries. Everyone is invited.
Jan Yochim Thinking of you and your family
September 17 at 8:35pm
Jan Yochim Thinking of you and your family
September 17 at 8:35pm
Barbara Pearson prayed for your dad especially tonight.
September 17 at 10:05pm
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September 18
Back to work. Mom will always be in my heart. She used to be in tears when I would visit and then had to leave to deliver a load somewhere. I will miss her, but know that she can be with me always. Love you Mommy.
Catherine Siino Thinking of you and sending prayers....talked with your father and will see you on the 28th. xoxo
September 18 at 2:29pm
Catherine Siino Thinking of you and sending prayers....talked with your father and will see you on the 28th. xoxo
September 18 at 2:29pm
Jenni Reynolds-Kebler That is so awesome, Catherine. Dad told me that you were coming up. I'm totally looking forward to seeing you again. Been so long. Love you.
September 18 at 7:51pm
Friday, September 20, 2013
MOM'S LEGACY LIVES ON IN OUR HEARTS
Thank you to the many people that have taken the time to not only read about my Mom in the newspaper, but also taking the time to write a little note about her and what she meant in your lives. Mom was truly a gifted woman that loved to share her talents and love. Here are some of the entries made in the guestbook:
September 17, 2013
September 17, 2013
I will always remember my Mom. She always called me her little flower. I love my Mom, always. I look forward to the day when I see her again in the presence of our Holy Father.
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Lisa Jones,
kissimmee, Florida
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My mother is a Proverbs 31 woman. Her children call her Blessed. She is now dancing in Heaven in the presence of our Good Lord. Her head is crowned with many crowns, for she served the Lord all the days of her life. I love you mom! Your daughter, Annie
One of my last conversations with grandma was me asking her if she was fighting to stay with us on earth or if she wanted to go be in heaven with God. She told me that she wasn't sure, that it was a deep thought. I told her it was ok to go, that we all loved her and would miss her, but we knew that she wouldn't be in pain anymore and she would walk and dance and see her boys and my baby boy. Now that she is gone it gets hard some days. I cant call her up anymore and get told that she needs to hang up at least 10 times before we finally hang up. "Oh another thing" I think was her favorite phrase.
I love you so much grandma! Thank you for teaching me so much, such as put God first and trust Him in everything you do.
I look forward to the day when I will see you again and can give you a great big hug and kiss!
Love, your sweetie pie Rachel.
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I was so sad to see your Mom's passing. I remember your Mom being so sweet and accepting and welcoming. Hugs to you all.
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September 23, 2013
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What I remember most about Betty, was the twinkle in her eyes....I believe there was a bit of mischievousness in them...in a most delightful way! I loved to watch her sign to worship music, it was extravagant, and she had a radiance about her I could see. To Annie, my wonderful friend, and the rest of the family, I was honored to know Betty. May God's infinite peace surround each family member and may we remember the hope we have in Jesus Christ.
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My grandma Betty was an awesome grandma. I'm so glad I got to spend time with her last summer. She used to always say that I was funny, Grandma also taught me how to make a cake her way and I will never forget that. She made me feel joy, she made me happy. I will never forget her. I love you grandma.
~love
Sarah
I've known my Grandma Betty my whole life. I wish I could've been there for her and my Grandpa when she passed. I know that she died a peaceful death and everybody was relieved that she was in a better place and through with the suffering. We will never forget her.
-love
Craig
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September 24, 2013
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We are saddened by the loss of Betty...how grateful we are to have had your visits..sharing love, family, even the stars! We are humbled by her magnitude..the depth of her faith..and the breadth of her love for her family. As so many before have mentioned, we feel lucky to have known this special lady with the captivating twinkle in her eye! All our thoughts and prayers are with her and her amazing family ??
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September 25, 2013
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September 26, 2013
To mark the occasion we took Dad out for dinner. To his surprise however, it was no ordinary dinner. This was a momentous event! It was significant not only because it marked our first year without Mom, but largely because we were all together again. In spite of the miles that separated Jenny and Lisa from us, they were able to be present via video conferencing.
Annie, Rachel and I were sitting close to Dad, watching on as Jenny and Lisa visually expressed their affections. We had such a good time laughing and crying together, recalling countless family memories. A perfect evening of grateful reflection!
Although Mom was unable to be with us, we know that by means of the resurrection, in God's due time, Mom will enjoy life again. And what a life it will be! “The real life,” as the apostle Paul called it.—1 Timothy 6:19; Hebrews 6:10-12.
Mom trusted that even if she lost her life now, she would be rewarded for her loyalty to God. She did not let the fear of death enslave her as she knew this gave Satan her power. Much like Jesus, Mom did not have this fear. Through his ransom sacrifice, Jesus provided the means for freeing us all from such fear.—Hebrews 2:14, 15
Jehovah promises that he will make the earth a paradise, free from trouble, sorrow, death, pain and suffering. Isaiah 33:24 His word the Bible tells us that: “Death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”—Revelation 21:4.
So with great anticipation, we look forward to the day when we can embrace her again, but this time….. for all eternity.
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September 22, 2014
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My mother is a Proverbs 31 woman. Her children call her Blessed. She is now dancing in Heaven in the presence of our Good Lord. Her head is crowned with many crowns, for she served the Lord all the days of her life. I love you mom! Your daughter, Annie
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Annie Spencer,
California
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Words cannot express the love and memories I will always cherish. You were my companion and helpmate for the 52 years of our togetherness. I miss you and I will see you again. I love you MOMMA. POPPA
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Bob Reynolds,
Redding, California
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I will always remember Aunt Betty's sweet smile and infectious laugh. Sending all my love and prayers.
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Catherine Siino,
Granite Bay, California
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It was just a little more than two weeks ago that Mom was taken by ambulance due to an alarmingly high fever. Dad and I followed the ambulance to the hospital where we sat with her for hours. The following morning, while making my way to her room, I thankfully considered the intense love she shared with Dad and each one of us girls. Mom desired to live until she was at least 88. Despite such a goal, intense pain, long hours of chemotherapy, radiation and multiple doctors appointments were taking their toll. Upon entering her room, I knelt down alongside her bed and cried. Mom reached over, grabbed my hand and said, “It will be okay honey, we have lots and lots of days.” She died 14 days later. In those final days, Mom used every moment to amuse, bless and love us all. We were additionally blessed to have all been at her bedside when she passed away. How fortunate we are to have known the love of such a beautiful woman. I am a better person because of Betty Reynolds, my Mom.
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Rebecca Smith,
Redding, California
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Mommy, you have always taught me to be strong. To stick to reality. Keep my head out of the clouds. Don't always think only of myself, but to remember others. Over the years, you have taught me some valuable lessons in life. I miss you but know that one day we will be together again in Heaven with our Lord Jesus. By the way, all of your girls are taking good care of Daddy for you. I love you Mommy.
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Jenni Reynolds-Kebler,
Battle Ground, Washington
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September 18, 2013
She was my mother-in-law and my friend. I was the "Tall Redwood Tree" she loved to hug.
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I will remember Betty as a woman of faith who loved the Lord. I feel blessed to have known her. My love and prayers to the family.
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April Rosenburg,
Red Bluff, California
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September 19, 2013
Betty you will be missed. I will always remember your gentle soft Love which you gave to me so freely from the first time I met you. You are a light of kindness to me now and forever, and I look forward to joining you in heaven someday. thank you Betty for being you.
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I had the pleasure to meet Betty. She did the sigh language.(Artistic Endeavors) Our clients waited for her. When she came Tuesdays and Thursdays the whole room lighted up with her smile and kind words. You will be missed Betty.
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Eva Jordan,
Redding
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September 20, 2013
Our families went to church together when you kids were young. It was a real pleasure to know your mom. She was a gracious, kind, warm woman of God. It was a privilege to have known her.
Dave & Pam Perry
Dave & Pam Perry
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Couldn't have asked for a more Godly, beautiful, thoughtful, loving, and inspiring woman than my mother n law Betty Reynolds. She always knew what to say, and how to say things that were comforting to those she loved, and those she didn't even know. God was truly first in her life, as He should be. This is why I know she is in a place that is so incredible, that words cannot possibly describe how wonderful that place truly is. I will miss her warmth, her ways, and her smile the most. We will see you again Mom.
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Mark Jones,
Kissimmee, Florida
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Our deepest sympathies go out to your family. May God help them heal.
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Joe and Rae Cosca,
Redding, California
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Betty, I wish we had kept in touch with each other, we really did have a lot of fun together in our teen years! I'm so glad to learn of your loving family and husband.
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September 21, 2013
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Mommy, I miss you so much. I love you dearly. You are with me every day as we drive the country. You were always impressed with my truck driving, even though you didn't enjoy driving the car across town. So, I will do all the driving, you just remain in my memories and go for the ride.
my prayers are with all the family god bless each one of you
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September 21, 2013
I will always remember the long stories you would tell me, always wondering where it was going. Eventually I realized they were not just stories, but a message. You have touched my heart and I will love you always. skip Bo will never be the same.
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Jenni Reynolds-Kebler, Battle Ground, Washington
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My thoughts and prayers are with you guys..I have so many memories of ur mom growing up and spending a lot of time over at your house..so sorry for ur loss..
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sharon seamans-clark,
Redding, California
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September 22, 2013
Grandma always made us feel she had been waiting to see us all day long. And when she did.... she made us feel the day was now complete!
Betty, wonderful memories of the laughter and love, fun and funny times we had, growing up and growing older (never old!--these will continue to enrich my life now that you are gone. I'm so glad we talked not so long ago. You reminiscing and lots of laughter from both of us. I'm so glad you were a part of my life.
love, Stephanie (& Al, too)
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Rebecca, Zed, Abigial, Bethany & Elijah,
Redding, California
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Betty, wonderful memories of the laughter and love, fun and funny times we had, growing up and growing older (never old!--these will continue to enrich my life now that you are gone. I'm so glad we talked not so long ago. You reminiscing and lots of laughter from both of us. I'm so glad you were a part of my life.love, Stephanie (& Al, too)
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One of my last conversations with grandma was me asking her if she was fighting to stay with us on earth or if she wanted to go be in heaven with God. She told me that she wasn't sure, that it was a deep thought. I told her it was ok to go, that we all loved her and would miss her, but we knew that she wouldn't be in pain anymore and she would walk and dance and see her boys and my baby boy. Now that she is gone it gets hard some days. I cant call her up anymore and get told that she needs to hang up at least 10 times before we finally hang up. "Oh another thing" I think was her favorite phrase.
I love you so much grandma! Thank you for teaching me so much, such as put God first and trust Him in everything you do.
I look forward to the day when I will see you again and can give you a great big hug and kiss!
Love, your sweetie pie Rachel.
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I was so sad to see your Mom's passing. I remember your Mom being so sweet and accepting and welcoming. Hugs to you all.
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September 23, 2013
Mrs. Reynolds was always so nice to me, she would give Jenny and I art projects to do and cookies to eat after school. Such a lovely lady.
She was a warm genuine person and had a way of making me feel like I was exactly who she wanted to see.
My heart goes out to your family.
She was a warm genuine person and had a way of making me feel like I was exactly who she wanted to see.
My heart goes out to your family.
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My life was blessed and enriched by her friendship. She was a great woman of God and always made others feel loved. Her impact upon lives will only be fully measured in eternity.
Our love and prayers are with Bob and the family.
Our love and prayers are with Bob and the family.
What I remember most about Betty, was the twinkle in her eyes....I believe there was a bit of mischievousness in them...in a most delightful way! I loved to watch her sign to worship music, it was extravagant, and she had a radiance about her I could see. To Annie, my wonderful friend, and the rest of the family, I was honored to know Betty. May God's infinite peace surround each family member and may we remember the hope we have in Jesus Christ.
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My grandma Betty was an awesome grandma. I'm so glad I got to spend time with her last summer. She used to always say that I was funny, Grandma also taught me how to make a cake her way and I will never forget that. She made me feel joy, she made me happy. I will never forget her. I love you grandma.
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Sarah
I've known my Grandma Betty my whole life. I wish I could've been there for her and my Grandpa when she passed. I know that she died a peaceful death and everybody was relieved that she was in a better place and through with the suffering. We will never forget her.
-love
Craig
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September 24, 2013
My Mother-in-law is a bright light shining, Bettys light was seen from a far leading people with no hope in life to the thone of God. Her life resonated with the love of Christ, yes she had her challenges but I saw how she always abided in , trusted in Jesus right to the end. She was always ready in season and out of season to give a reason for her hope in Her Lord Jesus Christ. Spending time with Betty has made an impact on my life, while visiting with Her in our home she said to me "Nothing, absolutely nothing in your life is more important than learning to know Gods voice when He speaks to you ,and go do what He has called you to"Betty and Bob Reynolds have blessed me with an amazing, Godly wife, Annie Spencer,Mother of two ,and my Best Friend and for knowing Betty it was Gods plan for my Life! For the life of Betty Reynolds I thank my Heavenly Father and give Him all the Glory! See you in Heaven!
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We are saddened by the loss of Betty...how grateful we are to have had your visits..sharing love, family, even the stars! We are humbled by her magnitude..the depth of her faith..and the breadth of her love for her family. As so many before have mentioned, we feel lucky to have known this special lady with the captivating twinkle in her eye! All our thoughts and prayers are with her and her amazing family ??
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September 25, 2013
I knew she could hear me when I would ask her for a kiss and she would pucker her lips as we kissed. The very last words she said to me were "I love you very much Papa". As she lay there at home with our four daughters, our grand children, and great grandchildren around the bedside, she never lost her love for life and her love for God. She was a caring and loving mother and a compassionate lady who always exceeded expectations. A perfect mother to her children and a faithful wife never wavering from her marriage vows. For the fifty three years of our togetherness she stood at my side as my sweetheart and wife. Betty was my dancing partner, business partner, skiing partner and traveling companion. Very seldom were we separated. People would say "If you see Betty, you see Bob" or "If you see Bob you see Betty". That's who we were. Two joined as one. She loved God and shared that love at every opportunity with friends and total strangers. When she was asked to take on a project, she would embellish it with much more than expected. We took our vows on January 14th, 1961 and said "TILL DEATH DO US PART" I will miss your companionship and love but I know you are looking down at me from heaven. Say hello to Steve. Goodbye for now. I will be with you again. Love, POPPA
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September 26, 2013
This last year was very inspirational to see her love for The Lord ... Even through the pain and discomfort she was going through, she never took her eyes off The Lord. It was also a blessing to see her children and grandchildren gather around her to the end. We were blessed to have a small part in that.
September 13, 2014
It has been a full year today since Mom fell asleep in death. We all miss her terribly.
To mark the occasion we took Dad out for dinner. To his surprise however, it was no ordinary dinner. This was a momentous event! It was significant not only because it marked our first year without Mom, but largely because we were all together again. In spite of the miles that separated Jenny and Lisa from us, they were able to be present via video conferencing.
Annie, Rachel and I were sitting close to Dad, watching on as Jenny and Lisa visually expressed their affections. We had such a good time laughing and crying together, recalling countless family memories. A perfect evening of grateful reflection!
Although Mom was unable to be with us, we know that by means of the resurrection, in God's due time, Mom will enjoy life again. And what a life it will be! “The real life,” as the apostle Paul called it.—1 Timothy 6:19; Hebrews 6:10-12.
Mom trusted that even if she lost her life now, she would be rewarded for her loyalty to God. She did not let the fear of death enslave her as she knew this gave Satan her power. Much like Jesus, Mom did not have this fear. Through his ransom sacrifice, Jesus provided the means for freeing us all from such fear.—Hebrews 2:14, 15
Jehovah promises that he will make the earth a paradise, free from trouble, sorrow, death, pain and suffering. Isaiah 33:24 His word the Bible tells us that: “Death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”—Revelation 21:4.
So with great anticipation, we look forward to the day when we can embrace her again, but this time….. for all eternity.
September 22, 2014
Momma, It has been a year since we said our goodbyes. The girls took me to Lewiston for a surprise dinner meeting. As we road the highway to Lewiston I asked "Why Leweston?" they told me that it was the last place you and I went on a trip together. Jenny and Lisa couldn't be there with us so they were brought in by Skype. Rachelle and Faith were also there. I am doing fine and am happy with my life and you are always in my thoughts. I love you and miss your companionship. Love Poppa.
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